Nina Yates offers support to all adoption triad members. As a result of working with Nina Yates you may notice positive change in the following areas:
…you trust your own decision making process about adoption search and reunion and whether or not you choose to pursue an adoption reunion you find that you trust your own ability to face unknown outcomes, emotions and manage complex relationships
… you have given yourself permission to explore and honor your own heritage, history, curiosities and longings
… you are better able to manage your concerns about conflicting loyalties as well as experience with acceptance the grief of your losses
…you trust in your own existence and feel an increased sense of belonging in the world, often with your own families as well
(You may be interested in a group for adopted adults. Contact Nina for more info.)
…the love you feel for your children is enriched by a compassionate awareness of their often unspoken losses and fears…and your adopted children feel safer, more secure and more honored by their parents
…intimacy and closeness in your family are thriving in a climate of genuine, open (and age appropriate!) dialogue about complicated issues: curiosity about birth families, grief, identity, racism, inter-cultural issues etc.
…you have learned ways of becoming more comfortable with the either emotional (or actual) presence of your children’s birth families in your lives and feel more secure and confident in your role as parents
…your commitment to family is fortified as you explore your own political, ethical, moral and emotional beliefs about adoption.
…you have a more intimate awareness of yourself and a superior preparation for the issues that may arise in the planning of an adoptive family. This preparation will guide your adoption process and help you cope with inevitable challenges as well support the strength of your family for years to come.
…you will have considered different adoption options and the best fit for your family: open or closed, transracial, international, foster-adopt, infant, older child or special needs.
Consultation is recommended before you decide on a type of adoption or adoption agency. Experience has shown that the most successful family outcomes follow from parents who have resolved grief over loss of fertility/genetic ties to their children (for medical or other reasons i.e. single, gay or lesbian parents) before entering the adoption process.
Clients with relationship or adoption concerns often are experiencing one or more of the following issues which if necessary will also be addressed in your work with Nina Yates: